I just finished reading a blog called The Art of Manliness. Its actually a joint blog, written by a married couple and has advice in everything male. One blog was a posting on red flags:
http://artofmanliness.com/2013/01/31/relationship-red-flags/
Reading it compelled me to think of all of the red flags I'd experienced yet pretended not to see. Big mistake.
In an effort to keep me honest and safe from more miserable relationships, here's my list.
1. Has no desire to get or be health.
2. The only liquid he drinks is alcohol.
3. Continues to use the "F" word even after being asked to stop.
4. Tells me I am (fill in the blank) when he clearly possesses those traits.
5. Out of the blue, he says he has no commitment issues. Several times.
6. Has ex-girlfriends who "need" him to help then get through life.
7. Hasn't lived alone (parents, girlfriend) for an extended period of time.
8. Little concern for personal hygiene.
9. Changes job frequently.
10. Uses bad language to talk about bosses because they never know what they are doing.
11. Talks about his exes issues, putting the blame on them.
12, Talking about his exes hotness or finer features.
13. Calling relatives derogatory names.
14. Not walking his talk, especially regarding his faith.
15. Says he can't be with you because of xxx yet has committed to staying.
Sadly, all of these flags belonged to one man. Oh, how I wish it were a comprehensive list. Then I wouldn't feel so bad about my decisions to date. But, life is about learning and I have learned a lot.
Thankfully, I continue to.
Sun setting In Cuzco, Peru
